Businesswoman Roberta Edu Advises Single Women on Responding to Harassment From Wives of Married Suitors

Businesswoman Roberta Edu has offered advice to single women who are being harassed by the wives of married men pursuing them. Her comments followed a situation in which a married woman began harassing a single lady her husband was showing interest in, according to a Facebook post by Edu. Edu wrote that if a man approaches a woman and she has no knowledge that he is married because he hid it, lied about it, or did not tell her, and then his wife begins harassing her or placing curses on her, the woman should not explain herself or apologize. She should do only one thing, Edu said: report the harassment through the appropriate channels, such as the police, to speed up action. Edu added that giving the police a small amount of naira could help mobilize officers to arrest the wife, and once the wife is in custody, her family and community public relations would be occupied. A lesson would then be learned, she said. Edu stressed that a woman commits no known crime by going on a date with a man when she did not know he was married, and she should not be bullied or intimidated by anyone. Turning to women who harass young girls over what Edu called community property in their custody, she cautioned them to be careful. If a woman harms herself over an unfaithful man, Edu said, he will simply move on and marry someone else. It has happened before, she noted, and the woman would not be the first, second, or last person affected. Edu also said a fine girl should not be made to rest because another woman's husband chose to be dishonorable, adding that she had followed the lady and liked her content. In a second post, Edu stated that a girlfriend of a married man who did not know he was married is not a homewrecker but a victim.