Businesswoman Urges Women to Leave Incarcerated Partners After Her Own Divorce

A businesswoman named Shanae Tamika is urging women to end relationships when a partner is incarcerated, even if the couple has been together for years. She shared the advice in a Facebook post while describing how her own husband divorced her after he was released from prison. According to her account, she traveled to Harford County every Sunday during his time behind bars, leaving church to make the visit. She wrote that she was signing divorce paperwork at 7 a.m. for the second time in two years. The documents, she said, were not collected by her but by the man she had loved more than her own life. She also asked God to make him happy without her if they were not meant to be together. Tamika said she examined the dates on the earlier signatures and the tabs indicating where another signature was still required. That, she wrote, made her understand that he had not only gone to a courthouse to obtain the papers but had also tried to file them and had someone show where she needed to sign. She described herself as a fool who had endured everything and had never once considered divorce. She continued, saying she was speaking out while upset and had been going through a difficult time. Her advice included leaving a man when he goes to jail, even after a long relationship, and leaving when a woman begins earning more than her partner. She also said women should not deal with a man if they have more ambition than he does, and should not date a man whose mother did not treat him well and show him love, because they will both end up envying her. Tamika further warned against considering a man who has negative stories about every former girlfriend, saying those longtime side partners do not go away regardless of how great a woman believes she is.